Everyone has compulsive behaviors. I, too, sometimes have to take a minute to ask myself, “Why am I doing this? Is this what I really want to be doing?” Addictions aren’t only about illegal substances and stigma. So within the topic of compulsive behaviors, what’s the difference between a bad habit and an addiction?
It’s nearly November. The fall gusts carry brilliant fluttering leaves and the sun barely peeks over the horizon at five o’clock. We mentally prepare ourselves for the fast-approaching winter by vocalizing our bewilderment at the cool temperatures – “Can you believe how cold it is?” and “Wasn’t it summer just last week?” The feigned surprise makes it seem as if we expected summer to last into December.
Whether you’re looking forward to cooler temperatures or not, the change in seasons is an opportunity to think deeply about life. Are all seasons of life equally enjoyable?
Have you ever felt guilty for vegging out in front of a screen, even when you legitimately needed some time for rest and relaxation? Feeling guilty sucks the joy out of watching movies.
How can we as intellectuals and type-A’s bring the joy back into watching movies? It’s an activity we will inevitably find ourselves doing as a part of social relationships with friends, family and coworkers. Can we even make intellectual sense of the time we spend watching schlock, or slapstick, or even superhero movies? Read on!
The word crisis brings to mind a dramatic, life-destroying situation. Yet hindsight reveals that the situations we fear most are precisely the situations that bring out the best in our minds and/or bodies. For example, an injured athlete outperforms his own expectations. Or surprisingly, the much-feared divorce that forces two people to come to terms with the past allows them to move forward into happiness with new dreams and lovers.
Is there a positive perspective from which we can choose to view dangerous and critical situations we encounter? Let’s rethink crisis.
Do you suffer from analysis-paralysis? Trust me: there’s no PERFECT decision. What you need is to know what best motivates YOUR decisions, and what makes a good decision FOR YOU. Some people are satisfied by a choice motivated by their religious faith, others choose according to their personal values, and some people want to maximize probability of a desired outcome. What makes you choose option A over option B?
Unless you’re colorblind, you likely take color for granted. Human perception of color is quite uniform. What is red to me is red to you. The same goes for yellow, orange and all the rest. Many women seem able to differentiate between colors more easily than men, but this is easily explicable by women’s interest in fashion. Creating matching outfits can be considered color training. In case you didn’t realize, even black does not always match black!
Back to philosophy. Color is overlooked as a subject of philosophical debate because it is quite uniformly perceived and easy to take for granted. But color is quite a dubious thing…
We’re obsessed with stuff. We fill our homes with things we’ve collected, and when there’s no more room we rent storage lockers to house our stuff. I’ve been there, too. For at least a year I paid $200 a month for a storage locker. When I look back at that time, I ask myself: What was I thinking? It’s just a few years later and I have none of the things that I paid so much money to hold on to! Why didn’t I just let go of it all in the first place, instead of paying at least $2400 to keep a bunch of stuff in a big, dark box?
I’m not the only one who has been through this experience. It’s made me curious to know, what is the meaning of clutter? And why can’t we let go of all this stuff!?
Click for writing prompts to help you get to the bottom of your clutter.
Promises are a big deal. Really. Can you imagine what society would be like without promises? We rely on others to do as they assure us that they will. How would human relationships, partnerships, and friendships function without promises?
People have different ideas of what a promise is – what it means to promise, how a promise occurs, and what consequences to expect or dole out in response to a broken promise. The foggy understanding of promises adds tension to relationships. Improving your understanding of promises has the potential to transform and benefit your interpersonal relationships. Let’s figure this out! Click to read more.
“He was confused. He had never asked her to trust him or said anything to make her believe he was worth her trust. And she knew his past – so what did she expect? She had trusted him – to do what, exactly?”
Do you know what it means to trust someone? What about trusting yourself? Answer quickly, before philosophy gets in the way. You think you know, until you realize that you do not know at all what it means to trust and be trusted.
Click to visit this week’s post to learn about trust.
Plus, journal questions to help you understand how and why you trust!
Because of rising housing costs and scarcity, renters are forced to make decisions based on criteria such as square footage and utility instead of artistic design and psychological effects. Buyers are apt to make decisions based on price speculation – a property that increases in value is the smart buy. However, despite not being at the forefront of importance, the architecture of the buildings we inhabit matters to us for its subtle effects on daily life.
Find out about how architecture transcends physical reality (!) and journal questions to reflect on your own home.