Every once in a while I find myself in a vulnerable position and need to ask a favor of someone. Many people find asking a favor difficult and that it makes them feel indebted or dependent. Personally, I don’t find asking difficult because I know my heart’s attitude towards reciprocity in society: stranger or friend, I am happy to help anyone who sincerely asks a favor of me. We’re social animals and, therefore, we should not be afraid to help a stranger nor ashamed to receive help.
Inevitably, sometimes we ask for a favor and are disappointment by the lack of fulfillment. Is there any recourse?
It’s impossible to safeguard against ever being disappointed, but we can become better at dealing with it. Here’s my strategy for dealing with unfulfilled favors as they loom and after disappointment hits.
It’s the final week of this journal prompt series that I wrote to help you make introspection and deep thinking a daily habit. We made it! Thanks for reading, liking and commenting throughout the year. I hope you found the content useful, or at least interesting, challenging, and thought provoking! Next year’s blog project TBA! This week’s journal topic: Personal Change There’s a quote on Pinterest usually attributed to Lao Tzu: “When I let go of what I am, I become who I might be.” Regardless of the source – a fake quote or not – I like it. It’s versatile as a reminder that progression requires letting go. Being attached to our identity (i.e., how we choose to perceive and think of ourselves) makes letting go is a difficult and painful process. Letting go is not a “whatever” or “don’t care” attitude, a disinterested shrugging of shoulders. True letting go is a process requiring self-reflection and deep looking inward, followed by recognition of what will be let go and why, motivated by what will …
It’s nearly November. The fall gusts carry brilliant fluttering leaves and the sun barely peeks over the horizon at five o’clock. We mentally prepare ourselves for the fast-approaching winter by vocalizing our bewilderment at the cool temperatures – “Can you believe how cold it is?” and “Wasn’t it summer just last week?” The feigned surprise makes it seem as if we expected summer to last into December.
Whether you’re looking forward to cooler temperatures or not, the change in seasons is an opportunity to think deeply about life. Are all seasons of life equally enjoyable?