Every once in a while I find myself in a vulnerable position and need to ask a favor of someone. Many people find asking a favor difficult and that it makes them feel indebted or dependent. Personally, I don’t find asking difficult because I know my heart’s attitude towards reciprocity in society: stranger or friend, I am happy to help anyone who sincerely asks a favor of me. We’re social animals and, therefore, we should not be afraid to help a stranger nor ashamed to receive help.
Inevitably, sometimes we ask for a favor and are disappointment by the lack of fulfillment. Is there any recourse?
It’s impossible to safeguard against ever being disappointed, but we can become better at dealing with it. Here’s my strategy for dealing with unfulfilled favors as they loom and after disappointment hits.